In need of friends
Posted: Fri Jan 07, 2011 9:49 pm
Well, since you can write about your problems here, I figured I'd share something personal that I've been pondering about; I am in huge need of some new friends.
This may sound like I don't have any, but the truth is I do, I've got a whole bunch of them actually. So why this thread? Simple, none of them ever calls me, texts me, writes me on msn and so on. If I want to get in contact with them, it's always down to me to take the first step, it's never them. It feels like they ignore me somehow. Three years ago, back in 2007, I moved away from home to study at a folk high school, as it's called here in Sweden. I was placed in the most perfect house (it was a boarding school), with people that shared the exact same interest as me. I was in freaking paradise! These guys became my best friends ever, and my closest. But once that year ended, we all moved back home, and we were all spread around the country, which means we have to travel extremely long to see each other. We keep in touch with each other, and we see each other as often as we can. I will most likely go see some of these guys in Marsh, when Rise Against is in Stockholm. That'll be like 6 months since we last saw each other. These guys are my best friends, but we can't see each other that often, and it sucks, real hard in fact. But these guys are not my problem, and not the guys that ignores me. Those I'm talking about is my friends in my hometown, where I come from.
Back home I've got some friends I've known for years, some of them even since daycare. In 7th-9th grade we were together like all the time. Every weekend we met at someone's place and played video games all night. Those were awesome times! But once we all graduated from upper secondary school, we all sort of split. As mentioned, I moved away for a year, while the others started working. Once I got back, we never saw each other. After the summer break in 2008, I moved again, this time to study at a university. Once back after my first year, we met to play some football (soccer). We instantly connected again, and that made that summer great! We hung out a bunch of times! After that summer, in 2009, one of the guys moved to study at the same university as me. We saw each other a few times, and the other guys came and visited once. Actually twice, but I was in Stockholm to see Rise Against when they were there the second time. After like 3 months, he quit his education as it wasn't his thing, and guess what, the other guys never came to visit me alone. After christmas 2009, we started playing football (soccer...) every weekend in a sporting hall (we used to do that in upper secondary school as well). But last summer, we all sort of split again.
I went to see AC/DC in Stockholm with my brother and some of his friends. Two days after AC/DC had played, Green Day were gonna play in Gothenburg. I had discussed it with my friends, and I told them that if they were gonna go see them, keep me updated. Once back after AC/DC, I stumble upon one of the guys one day, and the first thing he says is "Did you go see Green Day!?". I didn't say anything, but I felt disappointed, I had asked them after all to call me if they were gonna go there. Summer 2010 came, and I got a summer job. We never saw each other that summer, because I worked and had some completing to do on my studies. But this fall I got even more disappointed. My birthday is in September, so about a week and a half before my birthday I invited the guys to my house. "Absolutely! We'll be there!" was their answer. The day before my birthday, I was at the hospital to do some test, and I ran into one of the guys there. I reminded him, "Tomorrow is my birthday, you're all welcome.". "Yeah, we'll try to be there." was his answer. Birthday came, but none of the guys showed up. No one even texted a "happy birthday". That made me extremely disappointed, I had reminded them and all.
My local friends, friends I've had since several years backwards, never calls to and asks if I'd like to take a beer, or if I want to come over and watch a football (soccer...) game, so I never see them. My best friends are spread all around the country, which makes it expensive to go see them, which means I cannot see them very often. I am extremely jealous of my little brother, it feels like he has a million friends, he always have someone to hang out with. Me, I sit home a lot, because no one ever calls. It's always down to me to contact them. I ran into one of the guys like two months ago, and we discussed playing football (soccer) in that sporting hall again. 20 minutes later I had booked it for every coming saturday. Saturday came, no one showed up, no one even called and said they couldn't make it. Earlier today I sent a text message to two of the guys, and asked them if they wanted to go play football (soccer) tomorrow. Both are yet to answer, and I don't expect an answer. But again, it's me whose taken the first step.
I've never been the most social person, I really havn't, but my best friends (all around the country) likes to hang out with me, and love it when I visit or when they visit me. But my local friends, friends that I have near me all the time, never seem to want to hang out. Why don't I have friends here that I can hang out with, go see a movie with, take a beer with, go to a concert with and so on.
Wow, this thread became even larger than I expected. So if anyone feel like reading this piece of crap, feel free to leave a comment. I really need some more friends, but where can I find them? Peace out...
This may sound like I don't have any, but the truth is I do, I've got a whole bunch of them actually. So why this thread? Simple, none of them ever calls me, texts me, writes me on msn and so on. If I want to get in contact with them, it's always down to me to take the first step, it's never them. It feels like they ignore me somehow. Three years ago, back in 2007, I moved away from home to study at a folk high school, as it's called here in Sweden. I was placed in the most perfect house (it was a boarding school), with people that shared the exact same interest as me. I was in freaking paradise! These guys became my best friends ever, and my closest. But once that year ended, we all moved back home, and we were all spread around the country, which means we have to travel extremely long to see each other. We keep in touch with each other, and we see each other as often as we can. I will most likely go see some of these guys in Marsh, when Rise Against is in Stockholm. That'll be like 6 months since we last saw each other. These guys are my best friends, but we can't see each other that often, and it sucks, real hard in fact. But these guys are not my problem, and not the guys that ignores me. Those I'm talking about is my friends in my hometown, where I come from.
Back home I've got some friends I've known for years, some of them even since daycare. In 7th-9th grade we were together like all the time. Every weekend we met at someone's place and played video games all night. Those were awesome times! But once we all graduated from upper secondary school, we all sort of split. As mentioned, I moved away for a year, while the others started working. Once I got back, we never saw each other. After the summer break in 2008, I moved again, this time to study at a university. Once back after my first year, we met to play some football (soccer). We instantly connected again, and that made that summer great! We hung out a bunch of times! After that summer, in 2009, one of the guys moved to study at the same university as me. We saw each other a few times, and the other guys came and visited once. Actually twice, but I was in Stockholm to see Rise Against when they were there the second time. After like 3 months, he quit his education as it wasn't his thing, and guess what, the other guys never came to visit me alone. After christmas 2009, we started playing football (soccer...) every weekend in a sporting hall (we used to do that in upper secondary school as well). But last summer, we all sort of split again.
I went to see AC/DC in Stockholm with my brother and some of his friends. Two days after AC/DC had played, Green Day were gonna play in Gothenburg. I had discussed it with my friends, and I told them that if they were gonna go see them, keep me updated. Once back after AC/DC, I stumble upon one of the guys one day, and the first thing he says is "Did you go see Green Day!?". I didn't say anything, but I felt disappointed, I had asked them after all to call me if they were gonna go there. Summer 2010 came, and I got a summer job. We never saw each other that summer, because I worked and had some completing to do on my studies. But this fall I got even more disappointed. My birthday is in September, so about a week and a half before my birthday I invited the guys to my house. "Absolutely! We'll be there!" was their answer. The day before my birthday, I was at the hospital to do some test, and I ran into one of the guys there. I reminded him, "Tomorrow is my birthday, you're all welcome.". "Yeah, we'll try to be there." was his answer. Birthday came, but none of the guys showed up. No one even texted a "happy birthday". That made me extremely disappointed, I had reminded them and all.
My local friends, friends I've had since several years backwards, never calls to and asks if I'd like to take a beer, or if I want to come over and watch a football (soccer...) game, so I never see them. My best friends are spread all around the country, which makes it expensive to go see them, which means I cannot see them very often. I am extremely jealous of my little brother, it feels like he has a million friends, he always have someone to hang out with. Me, I sit home a lot, because no one ever calls. It's always down to me to contact them. I ran into one of the guys like two months ago, and we discussed playing football (soccer) in that sporting hall again. 20 minutes later I had booked it for every coming saturday. Saturday came, no one showed up, no one even called and said they couldn't make it. Earlier today I sent a text message to two of the guys, and asked them if they wanted to go play football (soccer) tomorrow. Both are yet to answer, and I don't expect an answer. But again, it's me whose taken the first step.
I've never been the most social person, I really havn't, but my best friends (all around the country) likes to hang out with me, and love it when I visit or when they visit me. But my local friends, friends that I have near me all the time, never seem to want to hang out. Why don't I have friends here that I can hang out with, go see a movie with, take a beer with, go to a concert with and so on.
Wow, this thread became even larger than I expected. So if anyone feel like reading this piece of crap, feel free to leave a comment. I really need some more friends, but where can I find them? Peace out...